no idea what changed but,
Uninstalled all, reinstalled all for the 4th time, and bingo she is up to date, sent a few to cryptopia and livecoin and received a few,and all is good.
Ok this configuration worked for me too
listen=1
daemon=1
server=1
rpcuser=ANYUSER
rpcpassword=ANYPASS
rpcport=9527
rpcconnect=127.0.0.1
addnode=190.191.141.145
addnode=75.135.81.210
addnode=69.57.165.193
addnode=168.61.25.9
addnode=62.210.122.161:9526
addnode=212.142.109.116:9526
addnode=188.165.194.146:7999
addnode=138.201.221.88:9526
addnode=5.9.30.28:9020
addnode=176.31.126.191:9336
addnode=86.137.69.76:9333
addnode=184.54.198.54:9336
addnode=104.131.142.198:7999
addnode=47.91.167.216:9336
addnode=99.236.4.161:9526
addnode=83.169.222.42:9526